Oh Leasa...I am so sorry.
I have a lump in my throat for you and for me, as this brings me back to some very difficult times with my mother. Borderline mothers are very difficult and the tragedies that they put us through seems to never end. I think that if you and I ever had a chance to sit together and share stories, we would discover such similarities. Children of borderline mothers carry a heavy baggage of emotions most of their lives unfortunately. I buried my baggage along with my mother when she died 4 years ago.
Just know that I share your pain and upsets. Your have my prayers and thoughts. I am right behind you Leesa.
I hope that you can find courage and inner strenghth so deal with this situation.
Life can be so unfair sometimes. (hug)
Much love and hugs to you. xoxo