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Old 05-16-2008   #10 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Susie Q Roo View Post
HOWEVER... pleasepleaseplease don't just assume this is going to happen to you and rudely demand explanations from every waiter. MOST workers here aren't cheats and cons and thieves. The bad few shouldn't make it ugly for the rest of them. Assume the best, just be prepared for the worst and handle things quietly, peacefully, and respectfully. Sometimes a bad bill really IS just a mistake. Point it out and give them the opportunity to correct it without making accusations. Our reaction to the overcharging shouldn't be as shameful as the cheating is.
A nice quote I heard once was "assume ignorance over malice". And by ignorance here, I mean the true definition meaning not knowing, or making a mistake... not the social definition meaning jerk.

Assuming malice often makes a bad situation even more inflamed. Assuming something was a mistake allows everyone a little grace in dealing with the mistake or even attempted malice. I think that even those few people who try to get a little extra on purpose are often pretty ashamed when they get caught.
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