Fidelity

Originally Posted by Ginger

Reminds me of a story, SKM....when we had our first, my daughter, John was burping her and trying to settle her down. He looked so flimsy and wierd the way he was doing it and I tried to jump in and show him how to do it "MY" way...he quickly corrected me with a "Daddies do things differently, and babies don't mind!" Ha! We laughed over that one. I had to remember that on many ocassions when I wanted to jump in.

Ginger, you are very wise.

[roxie'sbadboy]

Originally Posted by Critter

Other than that heavy stuff I just have two simple rules:

1. Never go to sleep mad (always talk it out before either of you goes to bed.

2. (this is the most important) always go to bed nakid!

Rule 1 doesn't work for us, wish it did. Plenty of time Roxie and I have gone to bed spitting mad at each other. The nice thing is in the am, we really can't remember what we so fighting mad about, usually a couple of I'm sorries works just like two tylenol for a hangover. Rule 2 then comes into play. Nothing like make-up sex

[Jacko]

Originally Posted by roxie'sbadboy

Roxie and her supper club (ie the wives once a month get together to drink to much wine club) disccused the topic of would you tell someone that you saw their spouse with another person. Of course the response was yes they would. I said I wouldn't for several reasons, first off it's none of my business, even if it is a close friend. Two, things may not always be as they appear. Would you be suspicious if they were the same sex? How do you know the person isn't in the closet? How do you know that even your closest friends are not into alternative lifestyles? Lastly I put if it were you being the guilty party, would you want someone else telling me or would you want to do that yourself?

Badboy, In our relationship, my spouse wouldn't even care if someone saw me with another person...not sure in what circumstances you meant when you said they "saw" them...saw them doing what?

[mckinzie]

Jacko i'll let you know when I cross that bridge in the year of 2020

[sctx]

Originally Posted by roxie'sbadboy

Would you be suspicious if they were the same sex?

apparently not if you're a governors wife

[roxie'sbadboy]

Originally Posted by Jacko

Badboy, In our relationship, my spouse wouldn't even care if someone saw me with another person...not sure in what circumstances you meant when you said they "saw" them...saw them doing what?

I'm ASSuming that what they were talking about is one of the desperate housewife's seeing anothers husband with another woman, because lord knows women don't go out with other men, nope, never happens. I don't know if in their discussions they ASSumed they saw hanky panky or some other PDA and I don't mean personal data assistant. Anyway it was a sort of what if scenario.....

[roxie'sbadboy]

Originally Posted by sctx

apparently not if you're a governors wife

"John, these aren't your boxers, where did they come from?" as opposed to "John who in the hell does this thong belong too?!!"

[cpfstich]

Originally Posted by Jacko

Ron, I just thought that a 50% divorce rate for first timers and something like 70% for second timers was a trend? I certainly agree that longevity does not necessarily equal quality! But this is focused on the negative again...certainly there are postive things worth discussing in long term relationships without saying anything bad about those folks who have made a switch for good reasons?

Ours is Pat's fourth marriage and my first. My answer to all the second guessers who comment on her being married three times before is and always has been that she wasn't married to me those three times before.

We dated 3 years before we got married. I broke up with her, the "not ready for a commitment" excuse, as her daughter was 12 at the time. I spent the next 3 years kicking myself in the a** for letting her go.

I still remember the day we ran into each other at a party at a local bar. I asked her how she was and what was new. She told me, "Well I'm single." Immediately my mind was made up, I would not let her go again! We got married and will celebrate our 15th anniversary August 25th.

I am now blessed with Pat, a wonderful daughter and son-in-law, Amy and Mike, and the most special blessing of all, 4 month old granddaughter Camryn. With all this in my life, isn't it obvious why fidelity will always be my #1 rule?

[Jacko]

What a great story! Congratulations on your grandaughter...I'm patiently waiting on my daughter to give us our first Linda and I still play in the sand at Playa, but its gonna be even more fun with a grandchild someday!

[Jacko]

Originally Posted by mckinzie

Jacko i'll let you know when I cross that bridge in the year of 2020

Grab the gusto young man!

[Big Kahuna]

This is mine and Kens second marriage. He has no biological children and I have three. I met Ken when my oldest was 6 mos. old and we became close friends. My oldest was 4 when we married and the twins 18 months. My sons are very close to Ken. Being a step-parent is a very difficult job. Ken jumped in with his whole heart and soul and the boys love and respect him as a father. The boys have always lived with us and often did not have their biological Dad around (he came and went). Ken has been a rock in our lives. While the boys still have a relationship with their biological dad, they have a great love and a greater respect for Ken. I thank God everyday for him. My oldest son is now about to turn 21 and the twins 19. Our lives together has been AWESOME! Infidelity? Not a chance!

[cpfstich]

Originally Posted by Jacko

What a great story! Congratulations on your grandaughter...I'm patiently waiting on my daughter to give us our first Linda and I still play in the sand at Playa, but its gonna be even more fun with a grandchild someday!

Thanks! It seemed like forever before Camryn came into our lives, but believe me it's well worth the wait.

[sctx]

Originally Posted by roxie'sbadboy

"John who in the hell does this thong belong too?!!"

thats happened to me with an ex-fiancee (psycho !!!). We lived in an apartment and I had the awesome luck of drying my clothes in a dryer just used by the cute chicky upstairs.... of course she accidently left a thong in the dryer and guys never check inside the dryer before throwing their clothes in, so the thong ended up w/ my stuff.
I remember hearing "Who's f...n panties are these???" right before my prized Bonsai tree almost took my head off ( she had a pretty good throwing arm for a girl)

[NorthMinnesota]

[SunKneeMarie]

That bonsai tree has been mentioned before... is this the same bonsai tree incident or is there something freaky in your aura that makes this a recurring event?