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Old 07-18-2005   #1 (permalink)
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Sorry folks-just have to vent here for a I am sure the peeps on the board are most likely to understand- being in love with Playa as I am. Which seems to be hard to understand for those who've never been there.....

While we were all worried last night I briefly spoke to my stepmum on the phone and told her how I was feeling and how upset I was about the situation.....she seemed to understand THEN.
So a few minutes ago her and my Dad called.....and I am so HURT by their reaction.
First I had her on the phone- she asked how I was and I said a bit tired as I'd been up almost all night to hear the news from what I call my second home- her response was "Oh- a bit of sensation seeking in you there, no?" Excuse me??? Said to her that this had nothing to do with sensation seeking but simply with deep worry for the area and the people I know there. "Yeah- but there was nothing you could do anyhow..." True- but that doesn't mean I can sleep soundly in a situation like that- so might as well watch the news.

Then had my Dad on the phone- who really topped it off.
He said to tell him what was going on- so I told him the same. He just kept saying "Yeeaaahhh" in this really annoyed and tired voice. So I asked him straight out why he was sounding like that- almost a tad cynical. His reply "Well- in fact I really don't care." I said great for him if things like this wouldn't phase him if they happened but that it did phase me. He was just like "Well yeah. So- how are YOU doing?" Excuse me?? Are you kidding me??
Just said that while he didn't care I DID and therefor am tired now. Basically ended the call there.

I am SO angry. But mostly hurt.
As one thing I DON'T understand is the total lack of empathy some people have.
If MY daughter or a good friend would tell me on the phone they are concerned about an area they lived in and in which they have friends I would NEVER say the seem sensation- seeking.
NOR would I say I don't care. Maybe I wouldn't care too much about the area itself- but I would care and empathize with the fact that the person I am talking to hasn't been a happy hopper over all of it.


Okay- vented. Thank you for your attention and now back to the program.
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Ouch - I can see how that would sting. Your stepmum sounds a bit like my fiancee's mom - not a lot of empathy for any event/people outside of her immediate personal vicinity.

Nothing you can do about it, except recognize it as her issue and not yours.

Good luck with that.....
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Red face I had a different experience

My mom seemed a little disinterested, but that is only because she is at a conference and is quite busy. My Dad called me at work this morning and let me know he had seen the news and it looked like Cancun and Playa had handled things pretty well. He had to have known that I would be watching the news this morning, but he said he didn't want me to worry anymore. What a guy!

I am sorry for your experience, Joana that had to be frustrating. Some people just don't see things the way we do I guess. Hang in there!
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Alot of people we know just don't 'get' it - the way we feel about the area, the people and all of our friends on this board. We still get that look when we tell them thing's about our friends from here ("you guy's are crazy and livin' in cyberland - get a life" look) Oh well, their loss! Sorry for their attitude Joana!

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Don't hold it against them...sad fact is, most people unless they know people there personally, or love the area as we do- really don't care.
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Like Johnnyspud said Joanna, it is their issue. Dont take it personally. It's not that they dont care about you, they just dont have the same connection that you have with Playa. And true enough, for some people, unless a traumatic event touches them personally, it just does not fizz them. You have a big heart and be proud of it. Dont let it bother you too much.
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Joana: Sorry to hear....... My mom, God rest her soul, could press my buttons like no one else. I don't know how many times she'd start off with, "I know you probably don't want to hear this, but...... " or the infamous, "This'll probably make you mad, but......" I love her and I miss her, but sometimes........ grrrrrrr......

Would you feel better if I sent you a gecko to sing you to sleep???? And I promise he won't be one that Scott taught to do Tequila shots.
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Awww- thank you all for those kind messages!!!
Nerak- I'd even take one of Scotts geckos, sombrero and all- nothing to relieve the "homesickness" to Playa can be bad eh?

Not that upset about it anymore this morning....guess it got to me so much due to lack of sleep and all. Still not HAPPY with their response......but like johnnyspud said: the lack of empathy is their issue, not mine.

e-hugs to all!!
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I wouldn't say my parents were disinterested, more so that they were trying to help me relax because I was extremely on age, and i am sure there were a few times when i used a not so nice tone of voice because i was getting frustrated from the dad didn't know about it because he is at the Calgary stampede but he called and I told him and he said he would watch the news when he went back to the hotel it was ok.
Lets just all be thankful that everyone is ok, and in a few days once we are all rested again, I am sure we will feel much better then we have been for the last todays.
Abrazos para todos!
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