Originally Posted by MaripositaII
The discussion here is by people who have not faced the loss of their child like the father of the 5 year old, or of someone like Daniel Pearl. None of us know how we would respond in a real situation like these. Maybe Uno might turn out to be more like Pearl's father, and you more like the 5 year old's father. We don't know. Posters are saying how they would respond but it's more fantasy than reality.
So while it's good to see two different reactions, everyone is DIFFERENT, not so? What feels right for one individual, won't feel right for another person.
I don't see one being classy and one not. I only see the father's pain and his gut reaction to the killer of his 5 year old baby. I am not saying he's right. Only he can say what is right for HIM. Daniel Pearl was an adult. We don't know if that makes a difference.
Very well put. My thoughts are based on how I "think" I would feel. I am thankful I have never had to be in the situation. As for Daniel Pearl, he understood the dangers he faced and chose to face them. Apples and oranges.
I have read stories (sorry no back up data) of people who have forgiven and even supported killers of loved ones. I just can't find that idealism in my head. I hope I never have to try.