A drawback of paradise...

**Susie Q Roo** · 12-13-2005

(Besides hurricanes.)

I just dropped SarahB a note, wishing her a good holiday up north, but a speedy return as well, and realized that I would really miss her if, for whatever reason, she didn't return.

I seem to be going through a phase of "losing" those I'm closest to down here recently. My first friend here where I live, the only other full-time single woman, moved back to FL about a month ago. Another friend is considering private school in the US for their child and would move back in that case. Other friends just put a for-sale sign on their palapa this week. My very good Mexican friend interviewed for a job in Mexico City last week and will probably get it and move there since it pays way more than her current profession here. So, yeah, now I can visit FL and Seattle and the southwest and DF more easily, but I don't wanna!

I'd rather just have my friends still here!

So... I guess this is one of the lessons of living here - people don't root themselves here permanently like they usually do in the Midwest. I suppose I will just have to get used to it.

Jacko · 12-13-2005

Being from the midwest, I know what you are saying....when we moved to our little paradise here, we found we made many of our friends right here in the business and in the hospitality business we found the very same problem...we make good friends and then they leave for some reason or another....this is perhaps compounded by the fact that our community is full of senior retirees who are even older than we are

All in all, we have fewer friends, but the ones we have that are really good we NEVER really lose...as you say, just more reasons to travel I guess...

**sctx** · 12-13-2005

maybe Bucky is ready to settle down in a palapa by the beach

SarahB · 12-13-2005

Susie!! I'm coming back soon! Unless I am too frozen and can't thaw out to make it to the plane!!

Tesla 573 · 12-13-2005

That's sad Suzy but it seems now that Playa is on the map (so to speak) that some of the Peeps here have announced they are moving down there and others are planning on at least part time residence and with all the Peep Meets and Peep Fests how can you be alone?

It seems the problem may be in keeping up with all the social gatherings going on down there.Also with the forum here you will always have lots of friends to talk to and I'm sure alot of them would come down and help you if you ever needed it.
Count your blessings girly. You are not alone!

roni · 12-13-2005

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Originally Posted by Susie Q Roo

(Besides hurricanes.)
So, yeah, now I can visit FL and Seattle and the southwest and DF more easily, but I don't wanna!

I'd rather just have my friends still here!

You could plan your visits to some of those places for the hurricane season. Seattle has wonderful summers - and you could stop by Portland and say hey to us and Leasa and family don't live far away from there.

I understand the sadness, having moved a lot myself Saying good-bye can suck.

Ron

SarahB · 12-13-2005

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Originally Posted by Tesla 573

That's sad Suzy but it seems now that Playa is on the map (so to speak) that some of the Peeps here have announced they are moving down there and others are planning on at least part time residence and with all the Peep Meets and Peep Fests how can you be alone?

It seems the problem may be in keeping up with all the social gatherings going on down there.Also with the forum here you will always have lots of friends to talk to and I'm sure alot of them would come down and help you if you ever needed it.
Count your blessings girly. You are not alone!

That's very nice, but I think some of the problem is that people come and go so often that it's hard to find friends that are actually around all of the time. (Susie, you might feel differently, so I'm not answering for you.) It's so fun when friends are coming to visit...but they normally leave in a week. Different than I am used to. Not a bad thing though. Advantages and disadvantages in everything!

**Susie Q Roo** · 12-13-2005

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Originally Posted by Tesla 573

That's sad Suzy but it seems now that Playa is on the map (so to speak) that some of the Peeps here have announced they are moving down there and others are planning on at least part time residence and with all the Peep Meets and Peep Fests how can you be alone?

It seems the problem may be in keeping up with all the social gatherings going on down there.Also with the forum here you will always have lots of friends to talk to and I'm sure alot of them would come down and help you if you ever needed it.
Count your blessings girly. You are not alone!

Oh, believe me, I count my blessings daily, especially having spent several cold days in Ohio recently. Even more so as I sit here now with my door open, very much enjoying this cooler night here (currently around 70F - perfect sleeping weather!). I don't feel alone, or even lonely, at all, mostly. It's just that I hate severing the ties... I guess they've served their purposes or whatever, but still... And, having social gatherings isn't the same as having friends. I am not ALL that social, but I like having a few people that I share a bond with, near at hand, ya know?

SarahB · 12-13-2005

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Originally Posted by Susie Q Roo

...my door open, very much enjoying this cooler night here (currently around 70F - perfect sleeping weather!)...And, having social gatherings isn't the same as having friends....

Okay, don't rub that temperature in Ms. Susie!! I am totally freezing!! Can't get warm to save my life!!

I agree with you on the friends thing. Having/keeping/making friends is harder when people come and go so often. No one grew up here and most people haven't been in the area for all that long, so it's hard to have deep friendships with very many people.

Nerak936 · 12-13-2005

Awww, Susie.... I'm basically numb right now from working all day, shopping, and then wrapping many gifts (and fighting off the cats while doing so), and thus I'm way too pooped to come up with any words of wisdom to maybe make you feel better......

but please feel a great big (((HUG))) coming to you from me!!

I guess everything in life is "temporary" in its own way, so we need to appreciate and enjoy what we love when we have it. I don't have many what I would call "close" friends, but I do cherish those I do have.

Are there any organizations (be it hobby or charity-related or whatever) in your immediate area that you'd be interested in where you could make some new chums?? Something you go to once or twice a week?

Tony&Cheri · 12-13-2005

"In the tropics, people come and they go." -- Jimmy Buffet

There are days that going back to the States doesn´t seem that bad of an idea. But there are people here who we can lean on, who will listen to us whine, buy us a drink and actually make us feel like we belong here. That was unexpected. People like James and Anna, Sarah, Suzie, and others we are getting to know. So, Suzie, not all your friends are leaving. We are still here. Thank you, thank you, thank you for your generous PM and offer to help. We think we actually have it under control. (But we´ve been wrong before.) At least today, anyway. Sarah B, if you don´t come "home," we will track you down and bring you back here. We miss your smiling face (not to mention the cookies, but that´s secondary, seriously!) and we´ll have brownies waiting for you when you come back. Without getting too maudlin, we´re beginning to feel like you guys might be...family. Not the scream at each other over Thanksgiving dinner kind of family. The other kind. The ones you actually like to be with.

**Susie Q Roo** · 12-13-2005

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Originally Posted by Tony&Cheri

"In the tropics, people come and they go." -- Jimmy Buffet

There are days that going back to the States doesn´t seem that bad of an idea. But there are people here who we can lean on, who will listen to us whine, buy us a drink and actually make us feel like we belong here. That was unexpected. People like James and Anna, Sarah, Suzie, and others we are getting to know. So, Suzie, not all your friends are leaving. We are still here. Thank you, thank you, thank you for your generous PM and offer to help. We think we actually have it under control. (But we´ve been wrong before.) At least today, anyway. Sarah B, if you don´t come "home," we will track you down and bring you back here. We miss your smiling face (not to mention the cookies, but that´s secondary, seriously!) and we´ll have brownies waiting for you when you come back. Without getting too maudlin, we´re beginning to feel like you guys might be...family. Not the scream at each other over Thanksgiving dinner kind of family. The other kind. The ones you actually like to be with.

Ahhh... thanks, guys! The other kind is so much better! I'll be glad when you're not quite so busy and can "play" a little more, though. And I SO hope everything just falls right into place, right when you need it to. (If it doesn't, promise me you'll take me up on my offer, okay?) I'll be expecting to see you around here more often shortly too, I hope!

bufante · 12-13-2005

Okay...I'll move there..anyone got any job openings for someone who is not qualified?

I understand what you are saying..it sucks!

Doggiemom · 12-13-2005

OK, I'll move there too!!

Seriously, I know what you are saying and feeling. I get that every time I have family/friends visit me in Houston and then they leave.

bigdave · 12-14-2005

i just want to move there........can i watch from the beach, the sea, or 5th???

12-13-2005	#1 (permalink)
Susie Q Roo paradisiac Join Date: May 2003 Location: Q Roo Posts: 10,890	A drawback of paradise... (Besides hurricanes.) I just dropped SarahB a note, wishing her a good holiday up north, but a speedy return as well, and realized that I would really miss her if, for whatever reason, she didn't return. I seem to be going through a phase of "losing" those I'm closest to down here recently. My first friend here where I live, the only other full-time single woman, moved back to FL about a month ago. Another friend is considering private school in the US for their child and would move back in that case. Other friends just put a for-sale sign on their palapa this week. My very good Mexican friend interviewed for a job in Mexico City last week and will probably get it and move there since it pays way more than her current profession here. So, yeah, now I can visit FL and Seattle and the southwest and DF more easily, but I don't wanna! I'd rather just have my friends still here! So... I guess this is one of the lessons of living here - people don't root themselves here permanently like they usually do in the Midwest. I suppose I will just have to get used to it.

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Jacko añejo Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 18,342	Being from the midwest, I know what you are saying....when we moved to our little paradise here, we found we made many of our friends right here in the business and in the hospitality business we found the very same problem...we make good friends and then they leave for some reason or another....this is perhaps compounded by the fact that our community is full of senior retirees who are even older than we are All in all, we have fewer friends, but the ones we have that are really good we NEVER really lose...as you say, just more reasons to travel I guess... Last edited by Jacko; 12-13-2005 at 08:36 PM.

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SarahB añejo Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Playa...now Iowa Posts: 2,897	Susie!! I'm coming back soon! Unless I am too frozen and can't thaw out to make it to the plane!! Last edited by SarahB; 12-14-2005 at 06:54 PM.

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sctx political anarchist Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Body in San Marcos Tx....Tankah in my mind Posts: 27,730	maybe Bucky is ready to settle down in a palapa by the beach

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Tesla 573 añejo Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: LA...Lower Ala Posts: 7,065	That's sad Suzy but it seems now that Playa is on the map (so to speak) that some of the Peeps here have announced they are moving down there and others are planning on at least part time residence and with all the Peep Meets and Peep Fests how can you be alone? It seems the problem may be in keeping up with all the social gatherings going on down there.Also with the forum here you will always have lots of friends to talk to and I'm sure alot of them would come down and help you if you ever needed it. Count your blessings girly. You are not alone!

12-13-2005	#10 (permalink)
Nerak936 Cat-Lovin Nerak Bead Lady Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 18,620	Awww, Susie.... I'm basically numb right now from working all day, shopping, and then wrapping many gifts (and fighting off the cats while doing so), and thus I'm way too pooped to come up with any words of wisdom to maybe make you feel better...... but please feel a great big (((HUG))) coming to you from me!! I guess everything in life is "temporary" in its own way, so we need to appreciate and enjoy what we love when we have it. I don't have many what I would call "close" friends, but I do cherish those I do have. Are there any organizations (be it hobby or charity-related or whatever) in your immediate area that you'd be interested in where you could make some new chums?? Something you go to once or twice a week?

12-13-2005	#11 (permalink)
Tony&Cheri livin' the dream Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Playa del Carmen Posts: 2,231	"In the tropics, people come and they go." -- Jimmy Buffet There are days that going back to the States doesn´t seem that bad of an idea. But there are people here who we can lean on, who will listen to us whine, buy us a drink and actually make us feel like we belong here. That was unexpected. People like James and Anna, Sarah, Suzie, and others we are getting to know. So, Suzie, not all your friends are leaving. We are still here. Thank you, thank you, thank you for your generous PM and offer to help. We think we actually have it under control. (But we´ve been wrong before.) At least today, anyway. Sarah B, if you don´t come "home," we will track you down and bring you back here. We miss your smiling face (not to mention the cookies, but that´s secondary, seriously!) and we´ll have brownies waiting for you when you come back. Without getting too maudlin, we´re beginning to feel like you guys might be...family. Not the scream at each other over Thanksgiving dinner kind of family. The other kind. The ones you actually like to be with.

12-13-2005	#13 (permalink)
bufante minucker Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Crop Dusting the IA Posts: 2,600	Okay...I'll move there..anyone got any job openings for someone who is not qualified? I understand what you are saying..it sucks!

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Doggiemom añejo Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Humble, Texas Posts: 6,067	OK, I'll move there too!! Seriously, I know what you are saying and feeling. I get that every time I have family/friends visit me in Houston and then they leave.

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bigdave añejo Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: short plane ride away from heaven on earth Posts: 2,676	i just want to move there........can i watch from the beach, the sea, or 5th???

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