A little friendly advice for the Peeps on this board..

UGAplaya · 01-11-2007

Good morning guys. I would like to share something with you. I know there have been countless debates here on religion and so forth but I wanted to share with you something that happened to me last week. On Jan. 3rd, 2007 I lost my dad. He had a massive stroke on Dec. 30th and on Jan. 3rd he passed away. What I would like to say is that if there is someone in your life that you feel like you need to talk to but you keep putting it off, don't. None of us are guranteed tomorrow and it's a horrible feeling to have unresolved issues when someone passes before we get around to talking to them. For the past 3 weeks I have been struggling to talk to my dad about his salvation. My selfish pride got in the way and I missed the chance. Whether you want to talk to your loved one about their salvation or any other issue, do it today.

This isn't meant to stir up a religious debate or anything like that. It's just a reminder of how short our time really is. Happy New Year peeps.

MWC · 01-11-2007

I am so sorry for your loss. I have always respected you for NOT pushing your religious beliefs on us too strongly, even though I know you hold those beliefs strongly. It wasn't selfish pride that kept you from talking to your Dad about salvation; it was also, no doubt, you trying to respect boundaries your Dad had established with you.

Everybody does the best they can at the time -- both you and your Dad.

Pray for the strength to deal with your loss, and the strength to be there for your other family members.

I will be praying for you, too. You were missed here!

ktowngirl · 01-11-2007

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Another thing to think about " get lots of photos". When my sister's son was killed in a car crash we realized how nice it is to have recent photos. She didn't have any recent ones of her son and her together and it was heart breaking for her. She was always the photo taker. Just a thought to add.

TAPPY · 01-11-2007

I never know what to say - but just know that I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. (((((((big hugs))))))))

James A. · 01-11-2007

I'm sorry about losing your father so suddenly.

You are spot-on. Everytime you leave your loved-ones, pretend its the last time you'll see them. It might be.

jamesblonde · 01-11-2007

So sorry to hear about your dad. I understand what you are saying about never leave anything unsaid. I never hang up the phone with my kids without saying I love you. My father was diagnosed with Alzhiemer's last week. I too have so much to say to him before it's too late, but struggle finding the words. Thoughts and prayers coming your way.

Tony&Cheri · 01-11-2007

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad without warning a few years back and miss him every day. You will be in my thoughts today.

You are absolutely right in your advice. Never leave a moment undone or a word unsaid with our loved ones. Whether it is a matter of great importance, like your commitment to your religion, or even a small "I love you" when hanging up the phone, we should use every opportunity to reach out.

If I may, I would offer a piece of advice to you. No regrets. Mourning almost always begins with the "I wish I had...". Move past that as soon as you can. Honor and remember your father for all the things that you had together. Keep him close in your mind and your heart (you can't imagine the conversations Dad and I still have

). And treat yourself gently. Whether through family, friends or prayer (or all three) you will need to heal your heart and move on as your father would have wanted.

Take care,

Tony (& Cheri sends her thoughts too)

ThrushJockey · 01-11-2007

Thanks for a great reminder.

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

UGAplaya · 01-11-2007

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Originally Posted by Tony&Cheri

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad without warning a few years back and miss him every. You will be in my thoughts today.

You are absolutely right in your advice. Never leave a moment undone or a word unsaid with our loved ones. Whether it is a matter of great importance, like your commitment to your religion, or even a small "I love you" when hanging up the phone, we should use every opportunity to reach out.

If I may, I would offer a piece of advice to you. No regrets. Mourning almost always begins with the "I wish I had...". Move past that as soon as you can. Honor and remember your father for all the things that you had together. Keep him close in your mind and your heart (you can't imagine the conversations Dad and I still have

). And treat yourself gently. Whether through family, friends or prayer (or all three) you will need to heal your hreart and move on as your father would have wanted.

Take care,

Tony (& Cheri sends her thoughts too)

Thanks for the advice. You are abolutely correct in that I have been beating myself up over regrets. Thanks again!

NorthMinnesota · 01-11-2007

UGA.....I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I have also lost both of my parents. Thank you for sharing during this tough time. Stay strong in your faith. Take care!

Sol · 01-11-2007

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. You are so right in that we need to take advantage of the presence of our loved ones. At time, we take things for granted. Even though my father passed away almost twenty years ago, I still think a lot about him and miss him. My mom is very ill and living with my brother. I call her often just to say hello and to tell her how much she means to me.
Try not to be so hard on yourself during this time. ((((hugs))))

Coccinelle · 01-11-2007

So sorry for your great loss Uga. My Dad lives 12 hours away from here and the distance that keeps us apart is very difficult. However, I do tell him that I love him everytime we talk on the phone. He is back in the hospital again with a second bout of pneumonia, we are worried.

God is merciful. He heard your wishes and prayers for your father. May you be at peace with it all and may your Dad rest in peace also.

**james** · 01-11-2007

thanks for the very good advice, and I hope you find peace. I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.

Nerak936 · 01-11-2007

UGA.... I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Despite whatever regrets you may have (which I hope you can let fall away from you), I'm sure the love you two shared was apparent to both of you, no matter what disagreements you might have had.

My prayers go out to you and your family.

Eileencc · 01-11-2007

Oh UGA...I can't tell you how saddened I am to hear of your loss. I too noticed that you hadn't been around much lately. And I too have always respected you for the low key way you communicate your religious values here. We know you are deeply religious, yet you never try to push your religion in an unsolicited way. Just know that your RFFs here on the board are praying for you and your family as you struggle through this terrible time of loss and sadness. Major (((HUGS))) to you.

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UGAplaya añejo Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Just a little south of Atlanta Posts: 2,239	A little friendly advice for the Peeps on this board.. Good morning guys. I would like to share something with you. I know there have been countless debates here on religion and so forth but I wanted to share with you something that happened to me last week. On Jan. 3rd, 2007 I lost my dad. He had a massive stroke on Dec. 30th and on Jan. 3rd he passed away. What I would like to say is that if there is someone in your life that you feel like you need to talk to but you keep putting it off, don't. None of us are guranteed tomorrow and it's a horrible feeling to have unresolved issues when someone passes before we get around to talking to them. For the past 3 weeks I have been struggling to talk to my dad about his salvation. My selfish pride got in the way and I missed the chance. Whether you want to talk to your loved one about their salvation or any other issue, do it today. This isn't meant to stir up a religious debate or anything like that. It's just a reminder of how short our time really is. Happy New Year peeps.

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Tony&Cheri livin' the dream Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Playa del Carmen Posts: 2,231	I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad without warning a few years back and miss him every day. You will be in my thoughts today. You are absolutely right in your advice. Never leave a moment undone or a word unsaid with our loved ones. Whether it is a matter of great importance, like your commitment to your religion, or even a small "I love you" when hanging up the phone, we should use every opportunity to reach out. If I may, I would offer a piece of advice to you. No regrets. Mourning almost always begins with the "I wish I had...". Move past that as soon as you can. Honor and remember your father for all the things that you had together. Keep him close in your mind and your heart (you can't imagine the conversations Dad and I still have). And treat yourself gently. Whether through family, friends or prayer (or all three) you will need to heal your heart and move on as your father would have wanted. Take care, Tony (& Cheri sends her thoughts too) Last edited by Tony&Cheri : 01-11-2007 at 10:13 AM.

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james beach geek admin Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: 10 year Playa resident lost in Kullavik, Sweden Posts: 9,615	thanks for the very good advice, and I hope you find peace. I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. __________________ My lovely house is for sale Get your own signature countdown image! Thanks for taking the time to read the announcement!

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01-11-2007	#2 (permalink)
MWC añejo Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Connecticut Posts: 5,842	I am so sorry for your loss. I have always respected you for NOT pushing your religious beliefs on us too strongly, even though I know you hold those beliefs strongly. It wasn't selfish pride that kept you from talking to your Dad about salvation; it was also, no doubt, you trying to respect boundaries your Dad had established with you. Everybody does the best they can at the time -- both you and your Dad. Pray for the strength to deal with your loss, and the strength to be there for your other family members. I will be praying for you, too. You were missed here!

01-11-2007	#3 (permalink)
ktowngirl way into it Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Kitchener Ontario Posts: 208	I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Another thing to think about " get lots of photos". When my sister's son was killed in a car crash we realized how nice it is to have recent photos. She didn't have any recent ones of her son and her together and it was heart breaking for her. She was always the photo taker. Just a thought to add.

01-11-2007	#4 (permalink)
TAPPY añejo Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Louisiana Posts: 14,942	I never know what to say - but just know that I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. (((((((big hugs))))))))

01-11-2007	#5 (permalink)
James A. sandbagger vidiot Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Bell Buckle, TN Posts: 2,282	I'm sorry about losing your father so suddenly. You are spot-on. Everytime you leave your loved-ones, pretend its the last time you'll see them. It might be.

01-11-2007	#6 (permalink)
jamesblonde No longer an intern Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: South of Seattle Posts: 7,599	So sorry to hear about your dad. I understand what you are saying about never leave anything unsaid. I never hang up the phone with my kids without saying I love you. My father was diagnosed with Alzhiemer's last week. I too have so much to say to him before it's too late, but struggle finding the words. Thoughts and prayers coming your way.

01-11-2007	#8 (permalink)
ThrushJockey añejo Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,778	Thanks for a great reminder. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

01-11-2007	#10 (permalink)
NorthMinnesota añejo Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Minnesota Posts: 5,599	UGA.....I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I have also lost both of my parents. Thank you for sharing during this tough time. Stay strong in your faith. Take care!

01-11-2007	#11 (permalink)
Sol Chupacabras Whisperer Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: The Gem State Posts: 9,759	I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. You are so right in that we need to take advantage of the presence of our loved ones. At time, we take things for granted. Even though my father passed away almost twenty years ago, I still think a lot about him and miss him. My mom is very ill and living with my brother. I call her often just to say hello and to tell her how much she means to me. Try not to be so hard on yourself during this time. ((((hugs))))

01-11-2007	#12 (permalink)
Coccinelle añejo Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Ottawa, Canada Posts: 2,727	So sorry for your great loss Uga. My Dad lives 12 hours away from here and the distance that keeps us apart is very difficult. However, I do tell him that I love him everytime we talk on the phone. He is back in the hospital again with a second bout of pneumonia, we are worried. God is merciful. He heard your wishes and prayers for your father. May you be at peace with it all and may your Dad rest in peace also.

01-11-2007	#14 (permalink)
Nerak936 =^. " .^= Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 18,507	UGA.... I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Despite whatever regrets you may have (which I hope you can let fall away from you), I'm sure the love you two shared was apparent to both of you, no matter what disagreements you might have had. My prayers go out to you and your family.

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01-11-2007	#15 (permalink)
Eileencc añejo Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: North of Boston, Mass Posts: 4,085	Oh UGA...I can't tell you how saddened I am to hear of your loss. I too noticed that you hadn't been around much lately. And I too have always respected you for the low key way you communicate your religious values here. We know you are deeply religious, yet you never try to push your religion in an unsolicited way. Just know that your RFFs here on the board are praying for you and your family as you struggle through this terrible time of loss and sadness. Major (((HUGS))) to you.