Making Coupledom Work Well - Page 2

Nerak936 · 07-13-2007

Communicating, communicating, communicating. And communicating some more. Letting the other person know your wants and expectations and being willing to hear and trying your best to comply with theirs. And when the "twain don't meet", working out a compromise.

Being honest. Both to that person and, even more importantly, to yourself.

Being able to say "I'm sorry" and MEAN it. If you're not sorry, explain why.

Being able to not hold a grudge over the little shit (this one I've had to learn and am still learning - sometimes more easily than others).

Never forgetting what made you fall in love with that person in the first place. Sometimes the day-to-day crap in life can cover that up.

Being happy and content with who YOU are and wanting to share yourself with that special someone you love. AND recognizing that that person is also his/her own person and not joined to you at the hip.

Being able to say "I love you, but you've made me:
a) pissed,
b) hurt,
c) disappointed,
d) all of the above".
And being able to say "I still love you anyway. But just get outta my face for a couple of hours or I'll rip your *$#&ing head off".

Being able to keep and enjoy your sense of humor and appreciating and enjoying their's too whenever and as often as possible!

Banzoomba · 07-13-2007

being able to make each other laugh.....no matter how bad things may seem

MikeW · 07-13-2007

I hear touching fingers seems to keep things together.

Ginger · 07-13-2007

I agree with the no jealousy. That works well for John and I, for sure. I'm not jealous if he looks at girls, and vice versa.

We were best friends first, before becoming involved. That goes a long way, I think, we've been together as a couple for almost 18 years.

Sense of humour...John and I both have quite the same sense of humour when it comes down to it. Sometimes his humour is over the top for me, but we share a lot of laughs together, and often at others expense.

The other people never know we are laughing tho...we just give each other a knowing look and laugh, or we laugh later....it's hard to explain, I guess.

And we laugh at ourselves too.

And putting up with faults is an excellent point. I have learned to ignore some things, as has he. We just work around them. Like I just pick up the damn socks on the livingroom floor myself now.

horizon200 · 07-13-2007

Simple!!!!! Chocolate Chip Cookies!

ElvisP · 07-13-2007

For me it's been the threats of how much child suport and alimony I'll have to pay. She broke it down very nicely last time I mentioned the phrase 'split up'.

I haven't touched the subject since. I know it will happened eventually. I just want to enjoy a nice house with A/C and a swimming pool a little longer, b4 I'm living paycheck to paycheck in a trailer infested with roaches. Red neck neighbors next door who drink all night and burp and fart with pride.

I gotta go tell her she looks good tonight. Later.

Nerak936 · 07-13-2007

Oh, ElvisP..... you just gave me that "warm and fuzzy" feeling all over that only hearing about true love can bring.

Thank you.

TAPPY · 07-13-2007

Alone time together is very important. (even if it means just going to the grocery story together). Time apart is also important.

Flash · 07-13-2007

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jacko

Its complex.......and its simple....all at the same time

...with a little of this, and a little of that....

Cosmo · 07-13-2007

Renee's not sure what I think...

blondeandblue · 07-13-2007

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cosmo

Renee's not sure what I think...

MsRubio · 07-13-2007

Listening....laughing....loving.

**sctx** · 07-13-2007

Quote:

Originally Posted by Flash

...with a little of this, and a little of that....

I already mentioned "besides tequila"

jamesblonde · 07-13-2007

Quote:

Originally Posted by SunKneeMarie

and apologizing when you forget and act ugly (BIG one!)...

And accepting the apologies when your S.O does the same thing. And then letting it go. Although sometimes it's fun to remind them of their stupidity.....aka infamous CW night
Trusting, believing and accepting who each of you are. You are not and will never be exactly the same. Isn't that the beauty of it? Sharing your thoughts, dreams and fears. Laughing when the little things go wrong. Realizing that there are going to be days when you don't really like each other much, but understanding that that's okay too. And communication. That is key. If something is wrong tell them. If they feel something is wrong, listen.

Okay, rambling. I'm done

ElvisP · 07-13-2007

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nerak936

Oh, ElvisP..... you just gave me that "warm and fuzzy" feeling all over that only hearing about true love can bring.

Thank you.

Any time. That's what true friends are for.

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07-13-2007	#16 (permalink)
Nerak936 Cat-Lovin Nerak Bead Lady Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 18,639	Communicating, communicating, communicating. And communicating some more. Letting the other person know your wants and expectations and being willing to hear and trying your best to comply with theirs. And when the "twain don't meet", working out a compromise. Being honest. Both to that person and, even more importantly, to yourself. Being able to say "I'm sorry" and MEAN it. If you're not sorry, explain why. Being able to not hold a grudge over the little shit (this one I've had to learn and am still learning - sometimes more easily than others). Never forgetting what made you fall in love with that person in the first place. Sometimes the day-to-day crap in life can cover that up. Being happy and content with who YOU are and wanting to share yourself with that special someone you love. AND recognizing that that person is also his/her own person and not joined to you at the hip. Being able to say "I love you, but you've made me: a) pissed, b) hurt, c) disappointed, d) all of the above". And being able to say "I still love you anyway. But just get outta my face for a couple of hours or I'll rip your *$#&ing head off". Being able to keep and enjoy your sense of humor and appreciating and enjoying their's too whenever and as often as possible!

07-13-2007	#17 (permalink)
Banzoomba big sexy speedo guy Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Top of the Chesapeake Bay, Md Posts: 9,317	being able to make each other laugh.....no matter how bad things may seem

07-13-2007	#18 (permalink)
MikeW añejo Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Moorpark, CA Posts: 9,346	I hear touching fingers seems to keep things together.

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Ginger none Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 10,165	I agree with the no jealousy. That works well for John and I, for sure. I'm not jealous if he looks at girls, and vice versa. We were best friends first, before becoming involved. That goes a long way, I think, we've been together as a couple for almost 18 years. Sense of humour...John and I both have quite the same sense of humour when it comes down to it. Sometimes his humour is over the top for me, but we share a lot of laughs together, and often at others expense. The other people never know we are laughing tho...we just give each other a knowing look and laugh, or we laugh later....it's hard to explain, I guess. And we laugh at ourselves too. And putting up with faults is an excellent point. I have learned to ignore some things, as has he. We just work around them. Like I just pick up the damn socks on the livingroom floor myself now.

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horizon200 añejo Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Delaware Posts: 4,421	Simple!!!!! Chocolate Chip Cookies!

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ElvisP añejo Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 2,780	For me it's been the threats of how much child suport and alimony I'll have to pay. She broke it down very nicely last time I mentioned the phrase 'split up'. I haven't touched the subject since. I know it will happened eventually. I just want to enjoy a nice house with A/C and a swimming pool a little longer, b4 I'm living paycheck to paycheck in a trailer infested with roaches. Red neck neighbors next door who drink all night and burp and fart with pride. I gotta go tell her she looks good tonight. Later.

07-13-2007	#22 (permalink)
Nerak936 Cat-Lovin Nerak Bead Lady Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 18,639	Oh, ElvisP..... you just gave me that "warm and fuzzy" feeling all over that only hearing about true love can bring. Thank you.

07-13-2007	#23 (permalink)
TAPPY añejo Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Louisiana Posts: 15,128	Alone time together is very important. (even if it means just going to the grocery story together). Time apart is also important.

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Cosmo añejo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 9,471	Renee's not sure what I think...

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MsRubio añejo Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Top of the Chesapeake Bay, Md Posts: 6,508	Listening....laughing....loving.

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