Making Coupledom Work Well

**Susie Q Roo** · 07-13-2007

How do you and yours do it? What do you think the secret is to a successful and happy relationship?

EDIT: Not how do you do *IT* btw!

Jacko · 07-13-2007

Its complex.......and its simple....all at the same time

blondeandblue · 07-13-2007

Well...Tim (bgfangs) and I got divorced, but I don't think that would work for everyone.

(Sorry, couldn't resist...now on to the serious answers.)

BethKen · 07-13-2007

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Originally Posted by Susie Q Roo

How do you and yours do it? What do you think the secret is to a successful and happy relationship?

EDIT: Not how do you do *IT* btw!

Laugh alot, and lots of trust..

**sctx** · 07-13-2007

you mean other than tequila I suppose???

I think in my case, the main factor is lack of jealousy.......alot of my close friends/confidants are chicks and Terri's are guys.....other than that, we did live kinda freakish parallel lives and we didn't get married until we were 30.....plus, I'm a little more reserved and cautious which helps keep her extremely outgoing personality in check....you never know when she's just gonna wander off and start talkin to complete strangers...or dolphins

redhairgirl1 · 07-13-2007

I stay single

mastequilapf · 07-13-2007

Ditto what Jacko said.

Also, it takes not caring about the stuff that really doesn't matter. Like who does what around the house, etc. And also enjoying being together and also enjoying time apart once in a while (i mean, being at home together, but doing separate things such as her watching TV and me posting here). And great respect and trust in eachother

**sctx** · 07-13-2007

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Originally Posted by blondeandblue

Well...Tim (bgfangs) and I got divorced, but I don't think that would work for everyone.

(Sorry, couldn't resist...now on to the serious answers.)

bgfangs · 07-13-2007

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Originally Posted by sctx

Scott, I can't tell you how close your response is!!

Life is good... 15 miles apart

blondeandblue · 07-13-2007

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Originally Posted by bgfangs

Scott, I can't tell you how close your response is!!

Life is good... 15 miles apart

Is it only 15...Oh Honey, you need to move over!

MWC · 07-13-2007

If either one of you has a tendency to clam up instead of dealing with conflict, that is bad. Open communication is paramount -- even if that communication happens to be negative at the time. Suffer in silence is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Nothing gets better by being left alone to solve itself.

A spotlessly clean house is overrated.

JudyBluEyes · 07-13-2007

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Originally Posted by Jacko

Its complex.......and its simple....all at the same time

Exactly...

**SunKneeMarie** · 07-13-2007

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Originally Posted by MWC

A spotlessly clean house is overrated.

amen and alleluia

a lot of talking... about mundane things, about important things... stopping to ask how the other person is doing... showing that you care... doing the little things they like... being considerate... sometimes just remembering to be polite

and apologizing when you forget and act ugly (BIG one!)...

laughing, laughing, laughing...

and touching... doesn't have to lead to anything, or suggest anything... but a touch in passing, or holding hands on a walk, these feel good...

i think i'm rambling...

i'm done

abuelo · 07-13-2007

A good marriage is toleration of the faults of your spouse. We all have them! (faults that is)

flowerBill · 07-13-2007

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Originally Posted by MWC

If either one of you has a tendency to clam up instead of dealing with conflict, that is bad. Open communication is paramount -- even if that communication happens to be negative at the time. Suffer in silence is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Nothing gets better by being left alone to solve itself.

A spotlessly clean house is overrated.

I'd have to agree. When we differ we don't hesitate to disagree. But then we move on. Don't hold grudges.

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Jacko añejo Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 17,984	Its complex.......and its simple....all at the same time

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blondeandblue reposado Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Sunland, California Posts: 1,101	Well...Tim (bgfangs) and I got divorced, but I don't think that would work for everyone. (Sorry, couldn't resist...now on to the serious answers.)

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sctx political anarchist Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Body in San Marcos Tx....Tankah in my mind Posts: 27,164	you mean other than tequila I suppose??? I think in my case, the main factor is lack of jealousy.......alot of my close friends/confidants are chicks and Terri's are guys.....other than that, we did live kinda freakish parallel lives and we didn't get married until we were 30.....plus, I'm a little more reserved and cautious which helps keep her extremely outgoing personality in check....you never know when she's just gonna wander off and start talkin to complete strangers...or dolphins

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redhairgirl1 añejo Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: toledo, ohio Posts: 6,583	I stay single

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mastequilapf Un Hombre Legendario Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 4,965	Ditto what Jacko said. Also, it takes not caring about the stuff that really doesn't matter. Like who does what around the house, etc. And also enjoying being together and also enjoying time apart once in a while (i mean, being at home together, but doing separate things such as her watching TV and me posting here). And great respect and trust in eachother

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MWC añejo Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Connecticut Posts: 5,843	If either one of you has a tendency to clam up instead of dealing with conflict, that is bad. Open communication is paramount -- even if that communication happens to be negative at the time. Suffer in silence is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Nothing gets better by being left alone to solve itself. A spotlessly clean house is overrated.

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abuelo beachaholic Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Shreveport La Posts: 268	A good marriage is toleration of the faults of your spouse. We all have them! (faults that is)

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