Is that sweet or is it sick?

Andiline · 08-09-2007

Not sure what to think although I don't really have anything to do with it...

The story is that 26 years ago during our vacations in Sardinia an italian guy fell in love with a german girl. I don't remember whether that lasted one or two summers. The italian guy is the best friend of one of my sardinian friends and the girl is the daughter of my former swim coach (we were all in a team back then). She didn't return to Sardinia while I am still friend with the guys in Sardinia. Last time I saw the 'guy in love' was about 10 years ago at the home of my friends but afterwards I found him on an italian board in the internet again. My friend kept telling me as well that he still wants to see that german girl again (he warned me during our Easter visit that his friend is still after her). On monday I got an email of that italian guy telling me he will be in Cologne next week with his girlfriend and wants to meet that german girl he never forgot.

Unfortunately I can't help him as I don't have her phone number (well, my mom could call her mom but... I think I told her that he is still thinking about her when I saw her 4 years ago but she was not really interested). When I told my sister about the email she just said 'If my boyfriend would do that to me I'd stay at home.' (because he wrote me that his girlfriend too is anxious to meet the german girl).

So is that sweet or is it sick? What do you think?

fireinmn · 08-09-2007

Hmm...at first I thought it was sweet, but now - not so much...his girlfriend is anxious too...wierd. I'd tell him you don't know where she is.

Andiline · 08-09-2007

I told him that I lost contact many years ago (the one time I saw her with her daughter 4 years ago was on a birthday party)... I thought it was sweet till my sister sort of made the point with the view of the girl-friends point of view...

hrlydavison · 08-09-2007

What do you expect...he's Italian.

Seriously though...I doubt its "sick". He probably had a heartfelt connection with the girl and thinks about her often. His girlfriend is interested in meeting her because I am sure he talks about her a little to much. The girlfriend wants to see what all the fuss is about. It will either make her more or less jealous...she is hoping for the latter.

The German girl obviously wasnt "taken" with the italian as much as he was of her. Therefore she could care less to see him or not as she doesnt still think of him as he does her.

The Italian would be better off with the Romantisized memory of her than to meet her again and have his bubble bursted.

"Dr. Hrlydavison"

Andiline · 08-09-2007

Well, chances are slim that he'll meet her as she lives outside Cologne with her 2 kids and it would be really a very big coincidence if she'd be in town during a weekday when she is a dentist and has to work. I didn't lie when I wrote him that I don't know her phone number and where exactly she lives.

And I agree: it might burst his bubble if he'd see her again... I am just not sure he is fair towards his girlfriend. He's been living in 26 year old memories for too much time now.... I sent him a picture of this former love from the birthday party 4 years ago and her daughter was on it as well. He LOVED the pic....

laurab · 08-09-2007

I think he is just...... Italian!

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I mean, he would have looked her up earlier if he was really in love with her don't you think? I think he's just curious to see her, maybe fantasising on what could have been, and maybe wanting to make his girlfrined a bit jealous. I bet if your friend were to meet him and show any interest....... he'd run in 5 seconds!

Some men just never grow up, and I know for sure a large % Italians don't!

Just Lucky · 08-09-2007

Of course it's sweet! signed, Hopeless Romantic

Unless of course he's a stalker.Then it wouldn't be romantic.

ami · 08-09-2007

Quote:

Originally Posted by hrlydavison

What do you expect...he's Italian.

Seriously though...I doubt its "sick". He probably had a heartfelt connection with the girl and thinks about her often. His girlfriend is interested in meeting her because I am sure he talks about her a little to much. The girlfriend wants to see what all the fuss is about. It will either make her more or less jealous...she is hoping for the latter.

The German girl obviously wasnt "taken" with the italian as much as he was of her. Therefore she could care less to see him or not as she doesnt still think of him as he does her.

The Italian would be better off with the Romantisized memory of her than to meet her again and have his bubble bursted.

"Dr. Hrlydavison"

Ditto that

Cosmo · 08-09-2007

I think it's sickly sweet...

Rissask · 08-09-2007

I don't really think it's sick OR sweet....it's actually just kinda pathetic.

Seakony · 08-09-2007

Hah! I ran into my first "official " boyfriend today. We were both happy to see each other......but then again..we are both Italian.

MWC · 08-09-2007

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rissask

I don't really think it's sick OR sweet....it's actually just kinda pathetic.

What she said.

08-09-2007	#1 (permalink)
Andiline añejo Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Cologne, Germany Posts: 7,745	Is that sweet or is it sick? Not sure what to think although I don't really have anything to do with it... The story is that 26 years ago during our vacations in Sardinia an italian guy fell in love with a german girl. I don't remember whether that lasted one or two summers. The italian guy is the best friend of one of my sardinian friends and the girl is the daughter of my former swim coach (we were all in a team back then). She didn't return to Sardinia while I am still friend with the guys in Sardinia. Last time I saw the 'guy in love' was about 10 years ago at the home of my friends but afterwards I found him on an italian board in the internet again. My friend kept telling me as well that he still wants to see that german girl again (he warned me during our Easter visit that his friend is still after her). On monday I got an email of that italian guy telling me he will be in Cologne next week with his girlfriend and wants to meet that german girl he never forgot. Unfortunately I can't help him as I don't have her phone number (well, my mom could call her mom but... I think I told her that he is still thinking about her when I saw her 4 years ago but she was not really interested). When I told my sister about the email she just said 'If my boyfriend would do that to me I'd stay at home.' (because he wrote me that his girlfriend too is anxious to meet the german girl). So is that sweet or is it sick? What do you think?

08-09-2007	#2 (permalink)
fireinmn añejo Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: St. Paul, MN Posts: 5,214	Hmm...at first I thought it was sweet, but now - not so much...his girlfriend is anxious too...wierd. I'd tell him you don't know where she is.

08-09-2007	#3 (permalink)
Andiline añejo Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Cologne, Germany Posts: 7,745	I told him that I lost contact many years ago (the one time I saw her with her daughter 4 years ago was on a birthday party)... I thought it was sweet till my sister sort of made the point with the view of the girl-friends point of view...

08-09-2007	#4 (permalink)
hrlydavison life=playa Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Middle of a cornfield in Illinois Posts: 535	What do you expect...he's Italian. Seriously though...I doubt its "sick". He probably had a heartfelt connection with the girl and thinks about her often. His girlfriend is interested in meeting her because I am sure he talks about her a little to much. The girlfriend wants to see what all the fuss is about. It will either make her more or less jealous...she is hoping for the latter. The German girl obviously wasnt "taken" with the italian as much as he was of her. Therefore she could care less to see him or not as she doesnt still think of him as he does her. The Italian would be better off with the Romantisized memory of her than to meet her again and have his bubble bursted. "Dr. Hrlydavison"

08-09-2007	#5 (permalink)
Andiline añejo Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Cologne, Germany Posts: 7,745	Well, chances are slim that he'll meet her as she lives outside Cologne with her 2 kids and it would be really a very big coincidence if she'd be in town during a weekday when she is a dentist and has to work. I didn't lie when I wrote him that I don't know her phone number and where exactly she lives. And I agree: it might burst his bubble if he'd see her again... I am just not sure he is fair towards his girlfriend. He's been living in 26 year old memories for too much time now.... I sent him a picture of this former love from the birthday party 4 years ago and her daughter was on it as well. He LOVED the pic....

08-09-2007	#6 (permalink)
laurab life=playa Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Playa Posts: 849	I think he is just...... Italian! . I mean, he would have looked her up earlier if he was really in love with her don't you think? I think he's just curious to see her, maybe fantasising on what could have been, and maybe wanting to make his girlfrined a bit jealous. I bet if your friend were to meet him and show any interest....... he'd run in 5 seconds! Some men just never grow up, and I know for sure a large % Italians don't!

08-09-2007	#7 (permalink)
Just Lucky link king Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Out On the Edge. Posts: 6,971	Of course it's sweet! signed, Hopeless Romantic Unless of course he's a stalker.Then it wouldn't be romantic.

08-09-2007	#9 (permalink)
Cosmo añejo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 9,471	I think it's sickly sweet...

08-09-2007	#10 (permalink)
Rissask Brit basher Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada Posts: 20,997	I don't really think it's sick OR sweet....it's actually just kinda pathetic.

08-09-2007	#11 (permalink)
Seakony añejo Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: no longer in Mesquite with nothing to do Posts: 10,151	Hah! I ran into my first "official " boyfriend today. We were both happy to see each other......but then again..we are both Italian.

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