Need some opinions and advice.

duffey · 11-06-2007

We are considering coming to PDC in Feb sometime.We will consist of my GF, her 17 tr old son and his friend. My question is. Who should pay for what?. I have offered to pay for Kathy's airfare and she offered to pay for 1/2 the condo.Should the friend have to pay anything besides airfare.How do you divide meals, excursions etc,etc. This trip is for our 50th and her sons graduation. I am not a cheap person by nature, but this one could get expensive Am I over thinking this?
Any thoughts?

Michele · 11-06-2007

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Originally Posted by duffey

We are considering coming to PDC in Feb sometime.We will consist of my GF, her 17 tr old son and his friend. My question is. Who should pay for what?. I have offered to pay for Kathy's airfare and she offered to pay for 1/2 the condo.Should the friend have to pay anything besides airfare.How do you divide meals, excursions etc,etc. This trip is for our 50th and her sons graduation. I am not a cheap person by nature, but this one could get expensive Am I over thinking this?
Any thoughts?

When I was growing up we travelled frequently and often brought one of my friends along. The parents of the friend paid for the airfare and there was usually a healthy amount of spending money doled out. My parents paid for all accomodations, meals and any activity planned for the family (excursions, snorkling, fishing etc. I don't know if that helps at all in this case as you are not married and the minor is not your son. Traveling with a family IS expensive. No easy way around it.

Page · 11-06-2007

Can't quite make out who is on this trip - you, your husband, your friend Kathy and her son plus a friend?

Why not just pay for your own airfare and half the other fixed costs like rental? That would generous considering the two teenagers, but it will cost your friend more (perhaps much more) to feed them!

Caroline

DavidB · 11-06-2007

This question is starting to come up with us. We've thought about bringing our 16yr. daughter and one of her girl friends with us next year. What we were thinking about doing was to just stay at an AI. Have her friend pay her own air and AI cost.

**Bumper** · 11-06-2007

Seems to me "Dutch Treat" would be the appropriate way to go. ie: Everybody pays their own way. You're each responsible for your own airfare. If you choose to pick up your chum's flight, that's your choice.

If I understand correctly, there will be 4 of you? You, your pal, the two young guys? So, split everything 4 ways. You pay 25% of the condo, and they're all on the hook for 1/4 each. Same with the communal property groceries and other supplies you'll lay in for your stay. Obviously, if someone wants to splurge on something out of the ordinary - like a $100 bottle of tequila, they're on their own. Meals out? We're all used to splitting cheques at the table back home. No difference in Playa. You won't get separate cheques, but the math isn't that tough. If you're feeling generous and want to pick up the entire tab for a meal out, that's your option, just as it would be at home. Trips/tours/excursions? Paying your own way seems like a no-brainer. Maybe I'm missing something, but it seems like you're beating yourself up unnecessarily over this. Wouldn't all the folks involved have a pretty good notion of what they can afford before deciding to go along on the trip? Nobody wants to pinch pennies, and whip out their calculator at the dinner table, or check-out stand - a few bucks one way or the other just isn't that significant - but everybody taking responsibility for themselves seems to me to be the most equitable solution.

MartyC · 11-06-2007

I think the friend shold be paying for his own airfare, he should be given spending money from his parents and he should not be expected to pay for accomodation. As for excursions and meals, I think he should chip in a bit for those things as well.

duffey · 11-06-2007

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Originally Posted by Page

Can't quite make out who is on this trip - you, your husband, your friend Kathy and her son plus a friend?

Why not just pay for your own airfare and half the other fixed costs like rental? That would generous considering the two teenagers, but it will cost your friend more (perhaps much more) to feed them

Caroline

The parties involve consist of myself ( Bill ) my girlfriend (Kathy) her 17yr old son and one of his buddies. 4 of us

himynameisjan · 11-06-2007

I have learned the hard way that when traveling with friends, the only way to go is to sit down before you buy tickets and hash out all the details, particularly those details concerning money. That way everyone knows what is what and there will be no nasty surprises. Why not sit down with all parties and the parents of the friend and figure it out.

My learning experience consisted of a road trip out west with a friend who wouldn't help with the driving, pay for gas, read a map or leave a tip for the maids. By the end of the third day she was camped on my last nerve.

Jacko · 11-06-2007

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Originally Posted by himynameisjan

I have learned the hard way that when traveling with friends, the only way to go is to sit down before you buy tickets and hash out all the details, particularly those details concerning money. That way everyone knows what is what and there will be no nasty surprises. Why not sit down with all parties and the parents of the friend and figure it out.

My learning experience consisted of a road trip out west with a friend who wouldn't help with the driving, pay for gas, read a map or leave a tip for the maids. By the end of the third day she was camped on my last nerve.

Lucky she wasn't camped in the desert with that type of approach!

PlayaCountryBoy · 11-06-2007

The parents of the kid should pay. Its not your responisbility to pay for a child. If it was your child ok, but sounds like none of the kids are yours, so why should the bill for all be shoved in your direction?

But then again I don't and have no plans to have kids...I don't won't to give up my quality/freedom of life.

duffey · 11-06-2007

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Originally Posted by PlayaCountryBoy

The parents of the kid should pay. Its not your responisbility to pay for a child. If it was your child ok, but sounds like none of the kids are yours, so why should the bill for all be shoved in your direction?

But then again I don't and have no plans to have kids...I don't won't to give up my quality/freedom of life.

None of the boys are mine. The one boy belongs to my girlfriend.He is bringing a buddy.I have offered airfare for my girlfriend and part of the lodging

Luv2Dance · 11-06-2007

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Originally Posted by duffey

None of the boys are mine. The one boy belongs to my girlfriend.He is bringing a buddy.I have offered airfare for my girlfriend and part of the lodging

It doesn't seem unreasonable for her to pick up the rest of her lodging in addition to airfare and lodging for her son. Are the buddy's parents willing to pay for him to go? And if she is inviting this buddy as someone for her son to hang around with and the boy's parents are unwilling, then she should pick up the tab. IMO

Daddy B · 11-06-2007

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Originally Posted by duffey

We are considering coming to PDC in Feb sometime.We will consist of my GF, her 17 tr old son and his friend. My question is. Who should pay for what?. I have offered to pay for Kathy's airfare and she offered to pay for 1/2 the condo.Should the friend have to pay anything besides airfare.How do you divide meals, excursions etc,etc. This trip is for our 50th and her sons graduation. I am not a cheap person by nature, but this one could get expensive Am I over thinking this?
Any thoughts?

Shouldn't you first be discussing the topic with those involved...?

duffey · 11-06-2007

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Originally Posted by Luv2Dance

It doesn't seem unreasonable for her to pick up the rest of her lodging in addition to airfare and lodging for her son. Are the buddy's parents willing to pay for him to go? And if she is inviting this buddy as someone for her son to hang around with and the boy's parents are unwilling, then she should pick up the tab. IMO

She is willing to pay her son's airfare and half of the lodging. The buddy's parents will pay for his airfare. I would imagine they will also give him spending money. Should he have to pay a 1/4 share of the lodging and meal costs.
Maybe Bumper is right.Am I beating myself up over nothing.

Luv2Dance · 11-06-2007

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Originally Posted by duffey

She is willing to pay her son's airfare and half of the lodging. The buddy's parents will pay for his airfare. I would imagine they will also give him spending money. Should he have to pay a 1/4 share of the lodging and meal costs.
Maybe Bumper is right.Am I beating myself up over nothing.

If the buddy's parents are willing to pay for his airfare, giving him spending money and you guys extended in the invitation, why not just cover the expense of the lodging. Are you doing an AI? Besides, how much are you really talking about when you factor in a 1/4 share of lodging, etc?

Oops. Edit...just saw you are staying at condo.

11-06-2007	#1 (permalink)
duffey beachaholic Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Roscoe,Il Posts: 299	Need some opinions and advice. We are considering coming to PDC in Feb sometime.We will consist of my GF, her 17 tr old son and his friend. My question is. Who should pay for what?. I have offered to pay for Kathy's airfare and she offered to pay for 1/2 the condo.Should the friend have to pay anything besides airfare.How do you divide meals, excursions etc,etc. This trip is for our 50th and her sons graduation. I am not a cheap person by nature, but this one could get expensive Am I over thinking this? Any thoughts?

11-06-2007	#3 (permalink)
Page life=playa Join Date: May 2003 Location: Playa del Carmen, Mexico and Tweed, Ontario Posts: 723	Can't quite make out who is on this trip - you, your husband, your friend Kathy and her son plus a friend? Why not just pay for your own airfare and half the other fixed costs like rental? That would generous considering the two teenagers, but it will cost your friend more (perhaps much more) to feed them! Caroline

11-06-2007	#4 (permalink)
DavidB añejo Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Mid Mich Posts: 2,780	This question is starting to come up with us. We've thought about bringing our 16yr. daughter and one of her girl friends with us next year. What we were thinking about doing was to just stay at an AI. Have her friend pay her own air and AI cost.

11-06-2007	#5 (permalink)
Bumper Class Clown Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Winnipeg, Canada Posts: 9,703	Seems to me "Dutch Treat" would be the appropriate way to go. ie: Everybody pays their own way. You're each responsible for your own airfare. If you choose to pick up your chum's flight, that's your choice. If I understand correctly, there will be 4 of you? You, your pal, the two young guys? So, split everything 4 ways. You pay 25% of the condo, and they're all on the hook for 1/4 each. Same with the communal property groceries and other supplies you'll lay in for your stay. Obviously, if someone wants to splurge on something out of the ordinary - like a $100 bottle of tequila, they're on their own. Meals out? We're all used to splitting cheques at the table back home. No difference in Playa. You won't get separate cheques, but the math isn't that tough. If you're feeling generous and want to pick up the entire tab for a meal out, that's your option, just as it would be at home. Trips/tours/excursions? Paying your own way seems like a no-brainer. Maybe I'm missing something, but it seems like you're beating yourself up unnecessarily over this. Wouldn't all the folks involved have a pretty good notion of what they can afford before deciding to go along on the trip? Nobody wants to pinch pennies, and whip out their calculator at the dinner table, or check-out stand - a few bucks one way or the other just isn't that significant - but everybody taking responsibility for themselves seems to me to be the most equitable solution.

11-06-2007	#6 (permalink)
MartyC life=playa Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Vancouver BC Canada Posts: 602	I think the friend shold be paying for his own airfare, he should be given spending money from his parents and he should not be expected to pay for accomodation. As for excursions and meals, I think he should chip in a bit for those things as well.

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himynameisjan reposado Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Mankato, Minnesota Posts: 1,480	I have learned the hard way that when traveling with friends, the only way to go is to sit down before you buy tickets and hash out all the details, particularly those details concerning money. That way everyone knows what is what and there will be no nasty surprises. Why not sit down with all parties and the parents of the friend and figure it out. My learning experience consisted of a road trip out west with a friend who wouldn't help with the driving, pay for gas, read a map or leave a tip for the maids. By the end of the third day she was camped on my last nerve.

11-06-2007	#10 (permalink)
PlayaCountryBoy life=playa Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Playa del Carmen Posts: 503	The parents of the kid should pay. Its not your responisbility to pay for a child. If it was your child ok, but sounds like none of the kids are yours, so why should the bill for all be shoved in your direction? But then again I don't and have no plans to have kids...I don't won't to give up my quality/freedom of life.

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