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Old 09-02-2009   #1 (permalink)
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No Children wedding receptions

I just got a wedding invitation and at the bottom it reads: "We kindly ask that you please not bring any children."

I know people have been requesting this for a while, I've just never been invited to a wedding where it was printed directly on the invitation like that. Not having kids, it doesn't bother me at all, but I wonder how others feel?

Also, I like the civility of the way that it's phrased, even though it is outright ordering you to leave the kids at home. I keep substituting others vowels for children, like "We kindly ask that you please not bring any idiots..."
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Taking a kid to a long (and often boring) event full of drunken adults just seems mean to me. How many kids really enjoy these events anyways?

If a person doesn't want children at their special event then they should not have to. If someone is offended by the invite then they don't have to go (or send a present)
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Taking a kid to a long (and often boring) event full of drunken adults just seems mean to me. How many kids really enjoy these events anyways?
I always tore it up at weddings and had a grand old time with the other kids when I was younger. But, I come from a big Polish family and weddings are rocking parties, not solemn events. Maybe the church, but definetly not the reception.

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If a person doesn't want children at their special event then they should not have to. If someone is offended by the invite then they don't have to go (or send a present)
I agree.
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I can understand a formal (stuffy...cough cough) wedding and not wanting small children who may cry or run around - be disruptive ....but what about a 10 year old or even a young teen ? and what about young family members ?

Of course it is their wedding and they can do what they want.....but I am betting some people will not go because of this...(and maybe not send a gift).

We watched our wedding video a few weeks ago and I loved seeing all the little kids running around and dancing, eating all the wedding cake ! Joie de vivre !
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We asked right on our invitations to please not bring children.


It was not because we don't like kids, though! We had an evening wedding in a smallish hotel ballroom, and the max capacity was 125 people. We wanted as many people as possible who we are close to, to be squeezed into that room, and that meant no kids.

It was not a big deal to most people, in fact we had people tell us how nice it was to be able to leave the kids at home and come party...and most of the people attending with kids lived ten minutes away, so they didn't mind. (We did provide a room with a babysitter for out-of-towners' kids, they had pizza and watched movies, they likely had more fun doing that anyway.)

Plus it was an evening wedding, all in one place with a JP ceremony, so it was more of a cocktails and dancing type of event anyway.


We DID have one couple decline to attend because they said they NEVER get a sitter for their kids, or go anywhere without them- and they were annoyed and insulted that we requested no children. That was fine, it was their choice.
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We asked right on our invitations to please not bring children.


It was not because we don't like kids, though! We had an evening wedding in a smallish hotel ballroom, and the max capacity was 125 people. We wanted as many people as possible who we are close to, to be squeezed into that room, and that meant no kids.

It was not a big deal to most people, in fact we had people tell us how nice it was to be able to leave the kids at home and come party...and most of the people attending with kids lived ten minutes away, so they didn't mind. (We did provide a room with a babysitter for out-of-towners' kids, they had pizza and watched movies, they likely had more fun doing that anyway.)

Plus it was an evening wedding, all in one place with a JP ceremony, so it was more of a cocktails and dancing type of event anyway.


We DID have one couple decline to attend because they said they NEVER get a sitter for their kids, or go anywhere without them- and they were annoyed and insulted that we requested no children. That was fine, it was their choice.
I don't think there is anything wrong with this. Weddings cost enough money that the couple should have exactly what they want.

This is my cousins wedding and I can already hear the old folks making waves about this because they don't agree.
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I have attended weddings with children and they were awesome. I had children at my wedding, and love to look back at the wonder in their eyes, and the fun they had too.

I don't know...children are part of the family too so for me it's okay.

Haven't been to any that were strictly adults only.
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I also agree that there should not be children wedding receptions. In fact, children weddings are rather creepy.
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We kindly ask that you please not bring any stupid babies.
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I always tore it up at weddings and had a grand old time with the other kids when I was younger. But, I come from a big Polish family and weddings are rocking parties, not solemn events. Maybe the church, but definetly not the reception.


I agree.
Same for the big french weddings around here..lots of dancing for everone.
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We kindly ask that you please not bring any stupid babies.


At my friend's wedding during a quiet moment, her niece stood up and (directing this comment to her mom who was the matron of honor) grabbed her crotch and screamed "mommy I gotta go tee-tee!"
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We have a different wedding invite situation.

My BIL is getting married for the 2nd time. At first the couple wanted only their children and parents at the wedding. That was fine with us.

Then, they decided to include siblings and spouses. That was fine, too. We'd like to attend.

Now they have decided to include the children of siblings if they live at home or are in college. Using these factors, all the nieces and nephews of the bride are invited. The groom doesn't have any nieces or nephews that are in college, but he does have two adult nephews (in their 20s) that still live with their dad, so they are invited. There are only three other nieces/nephews of the groom that live close enough to attend, but they are being excluded.
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I can completely understand no kids. If catered you usually pay per plate and what about the kid who eats 2 bites and wastes the rest. That being said, I love to see kids at the weddings dancing and cutting up. I think it is the bride and groom's choice though. And actually only those that names are actually on the invitation should attend so that should take care of that!

On the other hand (and I will probably be blasted for this one) I think big weddings are a waste on money. It is becoming crazy, weddings costing $20,000 and above! The average wedding is $20,000. Wow, that is a down payment on a house!
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We have a different wedding invite situation.

My BIL is getting married for the 2nd time. At first the couple wanted only their children and parents at the wedding. That was fine with us.

Then, they decided to include siblings and spouses. That was fine, too. We'd like to attend.

Now they have decided to include the children of siblings if they live at home or are in college. Using these factors, all the nieces and nephews of the bride are invited. The groom doesn't have any nieces or nephews that are in college, but he does have two adult nephews (in their 20s) that still live with their dad, so they are invited. There are only three other nieces/nephews of the groom that live close enough to attend, but they are being excluded.

Think that will cause some hurt feelings ?
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We kindly ask that you please not bring any stupid babies.
Yes, but do you really think that parents are that discriminating? I'm sure they think their baby is wonderful
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