Inter Office Dispute WWYD? - Page 2

TAPPY · 03-19-2010

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Originally Posted by horizon200

So yesterday, we were in a weekly inter office meeting when the other agencies Primary rep sets upon a speech where IMHO, she calls into question the integrity and creativity of my office and my personnel. I excused myself and stepped outside to calm down before engaging the mouth.
When I came back in, the tone of the discussion had not changed. So, I stopped the discussion and addressed her comments directly. I did not get personal, but said I take issue with the fact that she was challenging my integrity and that of my employees, as well as, their creativity.

Today, her boss sends an Email to my boss declaring he is "very dissappointed" with MY actions!

So, I told my boss that I really don't care what his opinion of me is and that as long as I can still get the mission accomplished, not to worry about his comments (for the record, my boss wanted to lambast the guy).

So, what would you have done? Would you have handled it the same way? Become more animated? or pull her off to one side after the meeting?

I would have done just what you did. If she had issues with your department she should have had a private meeting with you beforehand.

Nerak936 · 03-19-2010

I agree with the majority of the posts.

She was a jerk to say what she said in an open meeting like that. And I give major kudos to you for taking the time to step out and calm down before you addressed it.

If you hadn't had staff members present, it might've been a different scenario (one of those "why stoop to her level" kind of things). But I see it that you were right to address it face-to-face so your staff could see you sticking up for them and your department as a whole.

As long as you didn't jeopardize your job (which apparently you didn't, judging from your boss's reaction), then I think you were spot on.

Jacko · 03-19-2010

I have been there before...you did it just right imo

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sctx · 03-19-2010

I have a strong track record of loud and well directed profanity in management meetings such as the one described

roni · 03-19-2010

Nobody has issues with my department.

Everybody is happy with us, but I did disagree with a Division Dean at a meeting yesterday in front of a group that included a campus president and other people.

But, in academia that is kind of expected, and as long as you make a good case, it is good. A second division dean ended up agreeing with me

I would not hesitate to take on Horizon if I thought he was wrong, but based on his record here, I'd hesitate plenty to do that. He is smart and has a pretty wife and strong young men as kids.

I want him on my side.

Brent & Kim · 03-19-2010

Quote:

Originally Posted by roni

Nobody has issues with my department.

Everybody is happy with us, but I did disagree with a Division Dean at a meeting yesterday in front of a group that included a campus president and other people.

But, in academia that is kind of expected, and as long as you make a good case, it is good. A second division dean ended up agreeing with me

I would not hesitate to take on Horizon if I thought he was wrong, but based on his record here, I'd hesitate plenty to do that. He is smart and has a pretty wife and strong young men as kids.

I want him on my side.

I wonder who Jacko would have agreed with?

MikeW · 03-19-2010

An organization I volunteer for has mandated another dumb-a$$ rule starting next week. It's the typical rule that is created by people who don't actually do the work. I replied in an email about their new rule. I sent it to my immediate supervisor at this organization I volunteer for. The email I sent to her was not at her but at her superiors. I went into details about what was wrong with the new rule, and how people at my level would circumvent this rule, and I finished it by saying that if they didn't like it they could 'F off and find someone to replace me.

So today I spoke with my supervisor at this organization and she stated she forwarded the email to them, but removed the last line. She didn't want me to leave or have my volunteer status be removed.

Nothing wrong with a good boss. And she agreed with me.

Now you know why I'm not allowed at meetings.

I think Horizon handled it perfectly. I would have been fired.

Skiptown · 03-19-2010

I suppose telling her to" kiss my ass" would be to abrupt. I think you chose the best response and she will get the message from others.

03-19-2010	#18 (permalink)
Jacko añejo Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 30,889	I have been there before...you did it just right imo!

03-19-2010	#17 (permalink)
Nerak936 añejo Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: South Shore of Baahhstun, Massachusetts Posts: 23,228	I agree with the majority of the posts. She was a jerk to say what she said in an open meeting like that. And I give major kudos to you for taking the time to step out and calm down before you addressed it. If you hadn't had staff members present, it might've been a different scenario (one of those "why stoop to her level" kind of things). But I see it that you were right to address it face-to-face so your staff could see you sticking up for them and your department as a whole. As long as you didn't jeopardize your job (which apparently you didn't, judging from your boss's reaction), then I think you were spot on.

03-19-2010	#19 (permalink)
sctx my own peon Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Body in San Marcos Tx....Tankah in my mind Posts: 37,180	I have a strong track record of loud and well directed profanity in management meetings such as the one described

03-19-2010	#20 (permalink)
roni añejo Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Oregon Posts: 59,672	Nobody has issues with my department. Everybody is happy with us, but I did disagree with a Division Dean at a meeting yesterday in front of a group that included a campus president and other people. But, in academia that is kind of expected, and as long as you make a good case, it is good. A second division dean ended up agreeing with me I would not hesitate to take on Horizon if I thought he was wrong, but based on his record here, I'd hesitate plenty to do that. He is smart and has a pretty wife and strong young men as kids. I want him on my side.

03-19-2010	#22 (permalink)
MikeW añejo Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Moorpark, CA Posts: 13,089	An organization I volunteer for has mandated another dumb-a$$ rule starting next week. It's the typical rule that is created by people who don't actually do the work. I replied in an email about their new rule. I sent it to my immediate supervisor at this organization I volunteer for. The email I sent to her was not at her but at her superiors. I went into details about what was wrong with the new rule, and how people at my level would circumvent this rule, and I finished it by saying that if they didn't like it they could 'F off and find someone to replace me. So today I spoke with my supervisor at this organization and she stated she forwarded the email to them, but removed the last line. She didn't want me to leave or have my volunteer status be removed. Nothing wrong with a good boss. And she agreed with me. Now you know why I'm not allowed at meetings. I think Horizon handled it perfectly. I would have been fired.

03-19-2010	#23 (permalink)
Skiptown añejo Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Where the Columbia and Snake Meet Posts: 4,558	I suppose telling her to" kiss my ass" would be to abrupt. I think you chose the best response and she will get the message from others.

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